5.0, SOUL and their blogs

Hey guys,

I'm chillin' with 5.0, Soul and two friends of mine in Stockholm right now, having a blast :) We are having a bootcamp tomorrow here in Stockholm and wow, it's gonna be crazy. Besides the me, Soul and The Don (also called "The Veterans") we have 5.0 and Vercetti here ("the rookies") and we are trying out some approach coaches too which is going to make this bootcamp fuckin' rock!!! I'm really psyched about this BC, it's going to be crazy. But that's really not the reason why I write this post, the reason why I write this is because I haven't promoted my friend 5.0's blog yet... It's located at http://www.rollinwith5point0.com/ and all of you should check it out. It's wicked!

Oh, and if you haven't noticed, Soul has a blog too (Soul is awesome and as we speak, he's handing me a glass of wine... you gotta love him!) and it's located at www.lifewithsoul.com .

Alright guys, I'll get back to drinkin' with my buds and hopefully let you guys know how the weekend went (but I'm sure the reviews will speak for themselves)

I'm out!!!
- R

Real Man Conference 2008

Hey guys,

I and Soul have been invited to speak at the Real Man Conference in Amsterdam in September. I'm totally psyched about this event and hope to see as many of you there as possible! The tickets to the event are insanely cheap... you don't want to miss out on this. I'm going to let Soul take over my blog for a moment for more information:

THE REAL MAN CONFERENCE 2008, AMSTERDAM

There is going to be no greater event this year in Europe that offers as much value to the Dating Community as this.

This is your chance to see the world’s best dating instructors from Europe and around the world. The line up of speakers at present includes:

· AFC Adam & Gambler (www.puatraining.com)

· Sebastian Drake (www.theapproach.com)

· BadBoy (www.badboylifestyles.com)

· Zan (www.enlightenedseduction.com)

· Johnny Soporno (www.worthyplayboy.com)

· Soul & Rokker (www.lovesystems.com)

· Magnum & Orlando Owen (www.dieperfektemasche.de)

· Neil Natura (www.neilnatura.com)

· Spike (www.spikeseduction.com)

· Sean Messenger (www.lvo3.com)

· AlphaDoc (www.datingdoctors.nl)

· StRiPPed (www.dutchseduction.com)

SmoothDoc, host of the Real Man Conference and www.datingdoctors.nl, recently invited me to Amsterdam to give a speech to the Dutch lair.

As I talked to him more, I realised that he's putting together this conference because it’s his dream, not because of any commercial gain. I saw the sheer effort and passion he is putting into this making this happen. There’s no faking something like that. I was inspired.

This is a great opportunity for experienced and newer guys alike. People are always asking, how did the good guys get so good at this? Why did he become an instructor and I didn’t? It’s all about avoiding hubris and realising that you can learn from everyone:

“Every man is my superior in some way, and in that I learn of him. He who listens more than he talks becomes the strongest. He who talks more than he listens never reaches his full potential.”

Tickets are RIDICULOUSLY cheap if you book right now. Most of us spend more in a normal weekend than this ticket is going to cost you!

LOCATION

Amsterdam, Holland. It’s taking place in this massive theatre: http://www.raitheater.nl/zaal.html

Holland is amazing. Stunningly beautiful girls, friendly and slim – basically everything you come not to expect from English chicks. If you haven’t read my recent LR, check it out here.

PRICES

The first 100 tickets bought are at 60 EUROS ONLY (£48. Send me or Rokker a message to get the discount code)

After that the price is 100 EUROS (£80), still ridiculously cheap!

ACCOMMODATION

SmoothDoc has arranged accommodation in Amsterdam for Friday and Saturday night for just 75 Euros, which includes a daily breakfast and lunch package, at the hostel Stayokay Amsterdam Zeeburg. You can find details on the website (http://www.realmanconference.com/londonsoul).

If nothing else, this is an amazing opportunity to hang out with some seriously cool guys and meet some beautiful women in a location that isn’t London.

Happy sarging, and see you at the Conference.

Soul

PS: For more information on any of this, check out http://www.realmanconference.com. Message me or Rokker if you have any questions and to get the early bird €60 ticket discount code.

Here's a pic of Soul's the last time he was in Amsterdam:

Review Posted

Hey guys, I just got a review posted from last weekend’s 1 on 1 on The Attraction Forums (original post can be found HERE). As you may know, I and the students have had "great success" (to quote Borat) with the 2 / 3 day 1on1 sessions, and here's another testimony to that:

Rokker 1 on 1 - Stockholm, June 2008

Sitting on the train on my way back from stockholm I spot a supercute blonde girl in the seat to my right, still being a bit nervous about day approaches and in a confined space I decide to open a seated 2 set, a middle age couple. I run the set until I see that the target starts listening in.

I turn and engage.
We start chatting a bit and I numberclose her by the time I get off the train... taking a minute to
bask in the sunlight and noticing that I hadn't even showered that morning or even made sure I looked
my best.

Backtrack to friday->

Sitting in the cab I have a thousand thoughts flying through my head; Am I having too high expectations on what the results will be, am I and Rokker not going to get along, will I make an ass of myself... I start focusing on what I was thinking when I booked the 1on1, I've had several one night stands in my life, slept with well above 50 girls and had LTR's. What I did not have however was choice! I could not pickup a girl I wanted if she didn't find me attractive first. And I didnt know how to change it. I had never been the guy people listen intently to with full attention, I did not demand attention with my presence. My energylevels were low and I could often get on the wrong foot with people... All of this I was hoping to change.

I Arrive downtown to meet Rokker feeling slightly nervous because I am about to be in the presence of an absolute alfa that has successes in areas that I'm dreaming of, I'm extremly happy to see a layed back-looking dude with a giant smile on his face, I spotted him coming a mile away, the energy he exuded was totally different than all the other people walking the street that day. A good looking guy with a red shamagh around his neck, a cap on his head, slightly torn jeans and blonde.

I'm glad to see that he actually recognizes me instantly as well.

We move over to TGIF to grab a few beers and a burgers and discuss the challenges he had set out for me before the 1on1 and what he had asumed my sticking points were from previous conversations; the pre-work for the 1on1 was impressive and I did not have to go back to things that I had already said. I really felt like the center of attention and that this weekend was aimed at ME.

Rokker went through the information I would need and put up goals for us to accomplish that night. Most of the things we were to do that night was aimed at getting a good look at my level of game and have a look at my sticking points for himself. After we both flirted up a storm with multiple waitresses I get informed that HiRoller will be joining us that night, I instantly get stoked and amped, I've read great things about HiRoller and was very happy to hear that he was going to be helping out. I now had two great PUA's to demo and break down my game and give me feedback.

We decided to retire, get dressed and ready for our night out.
We meet up a bit later and go to the first Venue and meet up with HiRoller. I'm really nervous and use alcohol as a bit of a crutch. The boys notice this and open a two set and bait me into running both of my openers. After being a bit daft I realise what they're doing and I start getting my feet wet. By this time I realise that I have no reason to be intimidated by these guy, they are genuinly there to help me improve. we decide to head off to the next venue and they explain to me that they will be pushing me for the first night.

We come in and Rokker opens a set within seconds while HiRoller hangs with me to give me a
real-time breakdown of exactly what Rokker is doing. He then points out a mixed-set and says: "Be my guest" I walk in and open, and engage both rather indirectly and we start talking, it's a good set and runs fairly well. Unfortunatly it was a couple that was out with their friends.

HiRoller breaks down what I did well and what I did wrong. While he's doing this I see that Rokker has isolated his girl spinning her around and flirting, They look like they are in their own little bubbleworld and anyone with half a hormone and one functioning eye could see that it was on. I was severly impressed that she looked ready to be bounced within an hour.

Taking the critique I recieved from HiRoller I decided to open an all-girl set, I run it well and make it well into qualification with my target and suddenly as if reading my mind Rokker shows up to occupy the obstacles. I start getting warmed up and the rest of the night moves on relativly well, I freeze up from time to time, don't follow my impulses to open sets and so on, but compared to my normal behaviour this is good, Rokker and HiRoller are bringing me several levels up with their mere presence.

We head over to the next Venue and I open a moving 3 set... I thought! It turned out to be a 6 set and I decide to plough I get a good amount of attraction and get into qualification because the set breaked itself to form smaller sets and I had mini-isolation. However not moving the set or the target around the venue resulted in a pull-away as everything fizzled out. I later jump in on one of Rokkers sets and numberclose one of the cute obstacles.

We decided to call it a night and Rokker hooked up with the girl from the previous venue and closed her. As if this wasnt impressive enough to me HiRoller closed a girl he met later that night on the street. WTF?!

Day 2

I get debriefed by Rokker at Hotel Sheraton and I am told by HiRoller that he decided to invite me to his Party in the hotel Rokker had made a very impressive list of his entire breakdown on my game. I was severely impressed that so much information could actually be taken out of what I had done that night. He worked out a tailor-made stack that was congruent with my
looks, style, bodylanguage and energy and we went through all my sticking points that he had seen, he explained everything in a way that was easy to understand and I got several "AHA"-moments through-out. We spoke alot about energy levels and how much innergame can actually do for you and started discussing several topics other than pickup after we had finished up I was glad to see that I had not only gained a mentor... but by the looks of it the makings of two extremly good friends

I decide to go home and get ready for the Party, running my new stack through my head over and over again in every possible situation I can imagine I decide that tonight is going to rock hard. I pump myself up and decide that tonight im going to go into terminator mode and push through the sticking points that Rokker went over with me so that I could get more feedback on the debrief and break-down the following day. So I decide to stay sober for the night having
only a beer or two. I get back to the Hotel and the people start pouring in. The ratio is impressive; this was NOT a sausage fest. I was severely impressed and I see how the guys run warm sets and I start getting my feet wet without my stack as I felt it could be weird to run my stack among people previously gamed by my two teachers. I get into the talkative state
and the energy about this Party compared to all other party's I've been to was that every single girl in the place was entertained to the max and who was doing the entertaining, flirting, leading and escalating? Rokker, HiRoller and I, everywhere in the rooms there were groups of girls standing around, sucked into storys by us and I exchange numbers with a few of the
girls to hook up later when we bounce off to different venues.

Rokker grabs me to say that it's time for us to get down to business and we bounce, HiRoller unfortunatly cant join us tonight as he has to act as host. I didnt feel sorry for him tho, being the most competent guy at the party which was filled with girls they had picked up since
earlier this dude was definetly going to have a good night

Rokker gives me feedback on how it went and expresses that he is genuinly impressed and hopes that I do as well for the rest of the night. He also gives me alot of good pointers for home-party game and we just talk all the way to Venue 1. I go to hang off my coat and start gaming the Coatchecker a bit after heading upstairs. Rokker opens a two set as soon as we get up the stairs and I decide to go check out the bar for targets of my own. None found yet so I go back and isolate the one I felt like gaming in Rokkers set and I make a conscious effort to implement all the things Rokker told me that I needed to do. And what do you know? Attraction never fizzled out, I was giving her an adventure, making sure she had fun and picking her up in a way that she has probably never been picked up before. I numberclose her and excuse myself to find more sets. Tonight was about internalising my new knowledge as best I could and I needed quantity to do that.

on the way up the stairs I deviced a plan, I am going to open every set I see with either a "Cheers" "Hi" or one of my extremly short and direct openers that Rokker thought I should use. Rokker spots a set, looks at me a bit cheeky... put his hand in the air and start counting
down with his fingers and says, you or me ? I aproach before he's counted to two. I open, and go through my stack, it goes well and I decide to eject I open the adjecent, nothing really impressive happens as the girls although very pretty were not my type. We had a buzz going about us by this point at the venue and I decided to see if we could repeat the achievment. I go back down to get my jacket and I re-open the coat-girl, I run through the parts of my stack that are relevent and attraction is there, it's high, I go in for the number close and she informs me that she is married. Bummer, however the look in her eyes told me the same thing that she eventually told me before we left, that if she were ever to give her number to anyone it would
absolutely be to a guy like me. Thank you superstack! At least I got validation that the way I pick-up is something that women enjoy.

We head over to the next venue and start opening sets left and right, I'm in terminator mode, I feel great, go off to get myself and Rokker a beer and see that he is engaging a set and decide that I'm going to wing him as best I can. I engage the obstacle, an interupt arrives which is handled in a matter of seconds... Cool thing that the interupt was actually cute, I decide to switch targets and I run through some of my stack and get into deep rapport. using alot of the
techniques that Rokker taught me regarding SNL-game I got to a point where she told me that she lived 10 minutes away from the Venue... Hypothetical close!
However my greedy side decided that I had payed too much for this 1on1 to call it quits before gaming way more. I number close and she pratically begs me to make sure that I call her. We open a new set this set is filled with icequeens. But our dominant frame eventually wins them over Rokker is hardcore gaming one of them, I start gaming the other who is extremly closed off, I decide that rejection is not an option and plough plouhg and plough some more eventually she lights up, accepts being led, and I walk her hand in hand around the Venue. She starts clinging and I am euphoric. I get to just about the same point here but without the blatant invitation to go home with her. Still more gaming to do. I decide to open a very cute asian girl and her friend, and I go in with the intention of escalating the interaction as soon as I can and realise that this stuff can be moved so much faster than I expected. I have her playing a game from my stack within 35 seconds and having heavy kino going on, just as we're about to go in for a kiss, her friend shows up and drags her off! Oh well, a valuable lesson has been learned.

Oh I have forgotten to mention that between almost all the sets where we've had some time on our hands Rokker has been breaking down the sets, telling me what is going great
what I've improved on and so on, this positive information makes me feel unstoppable and I start noticing that we have extremly high value in the venue. We open some more
and by the time it gets really late I am totally knackered.

We head back to the Hotel for the afterparty, but being the first guys there I start really feeling how tired I am and decide to retire, without calling any of the numbers I had for that night... I just couldnt perform even if I tried.

Sitting in the cab home, I have a smirk on my face that couldnt be chissled off with a jackhammer. I feel like king of the world, going from being the guy relying on the hope
that a girl found me attractive enough to maybe wanna SNL me I was now that guy hitting the switches to get the interactions going that way... this leads to a true feeling of
being powerful... I just loved 'being' now Before I left Rokker bounced a girl he had been talking to earlier at the Party and closed her HiRoller closed one of the other girls from the Party as well... Where they get the energy, I have no damn clue...However I have nothing but respect
for it!

The following day I got debriefed, got my feedback and extreme amounts of praise, it was awsome! We discussed daygame, wrapped up all the loose ends and Rokker
went through ALOT of different concepts with me for LTR's, how to make girls become obsessed with you and many different very useful subjects relating to game, we went
out shopping some accessories and had lunch before parting ways... Walking away with the same smirk on my face that I had the night before in the cab.
I had learned more than I set out to, I gained awsome friends, when I ran sets I had full attention from people and I was becoming who I wanted to be.
I got on the train... taking one last look at Stockholm for this trip knowing that my life would never again be the same...

I Could Make It As a Porn Star

Yo peeps, this has been one fantastic weekend. I had a three day 1on1 with a guy who took a bootcamp a couple of months ago and have the ambitions to become an instructor with us, so he took a session with me to see if I thought he was instructor material. It’s always great (and a lot of fun) to have 1on1’s with people who are really committed and driven. This guy has a lot of talent and is going to be really good one day… but only if he keeps practicing. Like any other skill, even if you have talent, it requires a lot of time and practice to get really good. A lot of guys out there want to reach instructor level, but only very few do, because most guys don’t realize how much effort you have to put in to this. On the other hand, when you get to the point where you get the girls you want and live in sexual abundance, it’s worth every minute.

One of the best things about 1on1s is that it’s tailor-made training. One size definitely doesn’t fit all, and these sessions really give me the opportunity to get to know the student and make sure he develops a style that suits his identity and personality. For example, my student this weekend was way too indirect and, thanks to great body language amongst other things, could benefit from a more direct style – so that’s one of the things we worked on. It was awesome to see the transformation from Friday to Saturday night!

For you who don’t know what happens on a 1on1, I follow the same procedure every time:

- As soon as you are confirmed for the 1on1 we have email correspondence so I can get an overview of who you are and your current sticking points. This allows me to prepare for the 1on1 and make sure we can focus on maximizing your time with me.

- I then give you in field “missions” for you to complete and practice on (so you can work on your sticking points effectively) before our session so you have something to work on until our session.

- I encourage students to report back to me and give me field reports so I know how they are doing. The more information the student provides in these emails, the better I’ll know what to specifically work on when we are having the session.

- When it’s time for our session, we meet up for 4-5 hours and discuss theory and I talk about how to fix your current sticking points.

- We then head out in to the field for the same amount of time and I provide feedback, comments, tips, suggestions and of course wing you.

- If it’s a one day 1on1, we’ll debrief at the end of the night. If it’s more than one day, we debrief the next day and then repeat the same procedure as the first day (meet up and debrief, talk about new sticking points and how to improve, discuss theory and then head out into field again)

- When the session is over I encourage my students to keep sending me emails and tell me how they are doing and how their game is progressing. I want everyone to be the best they can be, and if they have any questions I’m only an email away.

If you have any questions about 1on1s, feel free to email me at: Rokker[at]lovesystems.com.

So how was my own game this weekend? Well on Friday I demonstrated SNL game to my student and pulled this hot 29yo. It started with her walking by me, HiRoller (Thor’s new instructor name) and a friend of ours, and I claw her in (it looked like she was looking for someone) and go “Hey, I bet you are looking for us. This is HiRoller and XYZ”. She’s really receptive to the dominance I displayed so I make a mental note of that, let HiRoller and our buddy chat with her for a while before I pull her aside and go “so who are you?”. Since assuming attraction is a part of my game (read my post on my game here) I want to switch to a qualifying frame as soon as possible. The set is really on already, and we are both kinoing each other. I run some identity stuff (mostly story telling) and then qualify her for it (she’s actually really funny and witty) and I use a lot of push /pull along with some disqualification (I don’t remember exact wordings, but general kino push/pull, teasing and making fun of her). See, this is why I think LR’s are over-rated; you got to see this happening in order to fully appreciate it. It would be awesome if I could somehow videotape every set I do… at least my student got to see it and learn from it, how I use my body language and attitude to my advantage. Anyways, to make a long story short she hangs around me for an hour or so, and at this point we are ready to bounce to another venue. At this point I know I could have pulled her, but I have a 1on1 and can’t leave my student, so I just number-close and make sure I seed the idea of an after-party… of course she is up for it. Fast forward til the end of the night, where she texts me:

Her: “How’s [the club we’re at]?”
Me: “It’s cool, but let’s have an after party instead”
Her: “Haha, I stopped going to after parties when I turned 25 J So you and I are going to have an after party at my place” (don’t you just love girls with confidence?)
Me: “Oh, you think you can handle a young energetic stud like me?”
Her: “I don’t think that will be a problem. Been there done that. What would be so hard to handle?”
Me: “I like you already. Meet me at [place]”

That’s what I like about older girls… they really know what they want and they’ve been around so they know what’s going down, no LMR, no bullshitting around :) They are really easy to qualify too, because usually they've got some shit going on in their lives.

On Saturday HiRoller threw a party in a five star suite (party like a ROCK STAR). Like expected the guy-girl ratio was off the hook (1 guy on 4 girls), so my plan was simple: get a lot of pre-selection and jealousy plotlines going. Just like in a club, it’s really important that you are the social entity in the room… and this is so easy to create at a party. You just talk to everyone and apply SCM concepts, meaning not necessarily running standard game. This is a post in of itself, and if I find time to write up my thoughts about it I will.

Now I couldn’t close until I came back for the after-party because we needed to head out for the 1on1, but I even had girls asking HiRoller for my number after I’ve headed out with my student, so I knew I had done a good job. Had a blast out with my student (who had improved A LOT from the night before) and then headed back for the after-party. I chat up this tall, hot, blonde girl originally from Estonia (although she looked kinda Swedish). The whole interaction escalated pretty fast as she had seen me at the party, so I had a lot of social proof and pre-selection going on (combined with some solid push/pull and disqualification game). Anyway, a really funny thing happened… in the interaction, I talked about how I want to move to LA and said:

Me: “If I move to LA either of two things are going to happen; either I’ll make it and be a big rock star… or [jokingly] I’ll end up as a porn star”.
Her: “[flirtingly] so what makes you think you’d make it as a porn star?”
Me: “Being a good porn star requires three things: the energy, the charisma and the equipment. So far you’ve seen two of those three, and let me tell you… the only reason I’ve seen Sex and The City (the series) a couple of times is because one of the characters in there have the same nickname as me…” (One of the characters is named “Mr. Big”).

I keep gaming her and we head back to her place (lol yeah I’m missing out on some details here but this is not a LR). After we’ve gone at it again in the morning she says to me: “You know you could really make it as a porn star… you’ve got the material”. ‘Nuf said.

- R

What happened in London?

Hey guys, I'll soon write up a post about what happened this weekend in London because it was a lot of fun and I'm sure you guys want to read about what happens when you throw a bunch of elite instructors together. I can't do it right now though as I've got one foot out the door, heading out on a little road trip with old friends to celebrate mid-summer (something we do here in Sweden, I have no idea if anyone else does that lol) but we'll see if I find time to do it when I return on Sunday.

I also have some ideas on other posts I'd like to get down and I think they can be pretty money too. We'll see what happens. Now it's time to P-A-R-T-A-Y. Yup, the extra A stands for Awesomeness.

[Marge]: Homer, the plant called. They said if you don't show up tomorrow don't bother showing up on Monday.
[Homer]: Woo-ho, four-day weekend!

- R

My Game: Insight on How I Game

Introduction
I just got back from an awesome weekend in London with a bunch of instructors (Savoy, Braddock, Mr M, Soul and some approach coaches who proved themselves this weekend and made it into the ranks of Love Systems… congrats guys!) Like you expect when you put a group of instructors together in the same place, there’s going to be discussions about game and how we game – the things that we do that makes us successful in field. It’s always interesting to discuss game with other top instructors because you almost always learn something new and exchange ideas that will improve your game. Even though all the instructors are in the same company as I, we all have different styles. Sure, some styles are similar, but we are definitely not replicas in terms of game. We have all taken the concepts and ideas from “theory” and through solid field work worked out the style of game we want to run – and the style that gives us the best results.

I think that’s a really important point to make for all the guys out there, you’ve got to carve out your own style of game from your experiences and not just copy someone else’s. It’s the same thing as working out and getting in shape; you shouldn’t just copy what someone else is doing and expect the same results as they are getting – you’ve got to apply what works for you and use your experience to put together your own work-out plan that gives you the results you want instead of following exactly what someone else is doing.

I think this also shows that we as a company are always evolving; we are no longer “the old Mystery Method” bound by certain rules set 4-5 years ago and tied to a certain style of game. I totally disagree with some of the “old rules”, such as the 7 hour rule or that your value is inherently lower than the value of a super hot girl. We have an amazing backbone structure in the emotional progression model, but what I like the most about it is that it’s not limiting you at all; you can adapt whatever style of game that suits you the most. I do think it’s awesome that we have so many different styles (direct, indirect, social circle oriented, identity oriented, natural, disqualification oriented etc) within the company.

All that being said, it’s always useful to get insights on how other people game, and try some of it out for yourself and see what sticks with you. The purpose of this post is to express some ideas that I use in my game. Hopefully it can help you put a new perspective on things and improve your game. First, let me give you an overview what my game is revolving around. I’ll then break down each section in more detail and give you guys some insights on how you can incorporate it into your own game. I’ll try to include as much information and detail as I can about the way I game, but naturally it would be impossible for me to cover every single detail of my game. This will be like me explaining the tip of the iceberg, but still introduces you to some concepts and ideas that I think you could benefit from.

Overarching ideas
My style of game is VERY Same Night Lay based. In other words, it’s specifically tailor-made for meeting girls at clubs and bars and taking them home the same night. For this style to work I believe it’s tremendously important that you develop some specific mindsets, beliefs and attitudes. A lot of my actions are drawn from the influence of these.
A huge thing to emphasize here is that I absolutely don’t consider a girl a slut, “easy” or put any value judgments on her if I can take her home the same night I met her. I’m extremely non-judgmental about this and I can’t stress this enough. In my opinion you simply can’t pull off consistent Same Night Lay game if you have weird beliefs about girls’ sexuality (like good girls don’t put out on the first night) or if you are a misogynist – because it will shine through, ruin your interactions and prevent you from getting what you want. Also, some people draw ego boosts out of sleeping with girls the first night (or sleeping with as many girls as possible) - a mindset I find atrocious. All the validation you need should come from within yourself. This might seem slightly off topic, but I think it’s really important to comprehend the fundamental mindsets and beliefs that permeate a certain style of game to really understand it.

While on the subject of mindsets, I’ve benefitted a lot from the following ones too;
All girls love me
All girls are friendly
Your value is roughly equal to what you perceive your own value to be
All girls are, under the right circumstances, willing to go home with a guy the first night
I’m a value bringer, not a value taker
No girl is “too good for me”. I deserve the best and I’m not afraid to get it
It’s my job as a man to escalate and make things happen
Rejection is a learning experience

Key concepts
Apart from the mindsets stated above, there are certain key concepts that I revolve my game around. Without further ado, they are:

Assuming Attraction
Value
Identity
Qualifying
Frames

Ok, so let’s break each concept down.

Assuming Attraction
A lot of guys go in to set with the intention to impress the girls, show them that he’s cool and hopefully they’ll get attracted to him. What I do instead is that I assume the girl is already attracted to me (before I’ve even opened her). Why wouldn’t she be? I’m awesome. But here’s the important part; just because I consider myself awesome doesn’t mean I should be an asshole (in other words try to put the frame that I’m high value and she is low value and try to put her down) or that I’m socially uncalibrated or insecure (by trying to constantly prove that I’m awesome). So one might think it’s a fine line to walk between being confident and an asshole… but it’s really not. Once you have your inner game down and a decent social understanding, you understand that it’s not attractive behavior to put other people down (and you’ll have no need to) and you will have the “aura of awesomeness” glowing all around you if you are confident in your own value and attractiveness.

This sort of thinking has reduced my approach anxiety ten folds too. I’m very confident in my own abilities and value, and I know that I’ll act even more attractive if I believe that she is already attracted to me… so that’s what I’ll do. And how hard is it to approach a girl you already know is attracted to you? On a similar note, that’s the reason why it’s so hard to get rid of a girl that’s really attracted to you… because as soon as you know that she is attracted to you, you unconsciously start to act in a way that’s even more attractive. Have you ever had that? There this one girl that keeps stalking you, and the more you push her away the more interested she becomes, because you are acting even more and more interesting to her. Well it’s kind of the same mentality that goes on here too. It might sound a bit self-righteous to walk around and (probably falsely) believe that everyone is attracted to you, but the thing is that a belief doesn’t have to be true to be helpful (something Sinn taught me a long time ago). You’ll be amazed at the different reactions you get once you start implementing this attitude.

Value
This might be the most important concept that I use. I previously mentioned that I don’t like the idea that we should have the mindset that we are of lower value than the girl (in fact, I HATE that mindset and think its utter bullshit).
What you believe your own value is what’s going to make or break your game. I always believe that I’m at the top level of the value chain in any given room. This might or might not be true; it doesn’t matter. What is value anyways? Who’s got the most money? The most social proof? Or is it just, and wouldn’t that be awesome, what the person himself consider his or her value to be?
Once you start thinking of yourself as high value, a lot of good things will come to you. However it could also turn you into that self-loving prick that everyone hates. It really is a fine line, but I’ll tell you the secret to what it all comes down to… it’s GIVING value instead of TAKING it. If you like yourself but at the same time provide value for others, then that’s when your game is going to explode.

Another thing that can be a really high value behavior, but easily reach a tipping point and become a low value behavior, is teasing. Confident people tease and are not afraid to tease, but they also know when to draw the line, stop teasing and switch it up by giving compliments. The best guys I know have an uncanny ability to give perfect compliments; the ones that make you feel really good.
So the concept of value is one of the centerpieces in my game. I tease a lot, but I also give girls compliments on the things I think they deserve. I always consider myself to have a lot of value, and I’m not afraid to bring that value to others.

Identity
This could easily be a post in of itself, but I just want to address the most important parts of having a strong identity. It’s no secret that a lot of my game is identity driven, and the reason for that is because it allows the girl to (what I like to call) “sexy stereotype” me. In other words, by having a rockstar identity, I get a lot of things for free (such as pre-selection, social proof etc). She’s going to assume I have those things, since they are a part of the rockstar identity.But not only that, it also allows me to do what I like to call “anchoring my attraction”. So what I do is that instead of running a bunch of routines that has nothing to do with me and my life, I tell her stories and anecdotes that are based from my identity and thus the attraction she feels for me is tied to my identity. This makes me so much more attractive, not only do I display attractive personal qualities (confidence, taking what I want, passion etc) but I can also back it up with an awesome lifestyle.

Qualification
Something I do a lot is that I convey a lot of “identity value” and then right afterwards I qualify based on the identity value. So for example, I’ll tell them stories about how I feel right before I go on stage (emotional spikes), how I love performing (DHVs) and touring, how I’m fortunate that I can pursue my dreams and ambitions and then I qualify if she’s pursuing her dreams. A qualifying question has an immensely bigger chance of succeeding if you go for it right after you yourself have displayed a lot of value. So whenever I’ve conveyed a lot of value I always switch to a qualifying frame. In fact, I switch to a qualifying frame as soon as I can get away with it. Why? It shows dominance and value, two things that are (almost) always beneficial. Try it and see what it can do for your game.

Frames
If you understand the concept of frames (and know how to set them) you are very close to “seeing the matrix”. What I like to do is to set disqualification, value and same night lay frames. I set disqualification frames in a number of ways; I use my body to show slight disinterest at the appropriate times (hard to describe in text, but basically communicates that “I’m calling the shots, I’m the one dominating this interaction” even though this isn’t a conscious thought process from my side), and I use words to do so too (to build sexual tension and attraction). I set value frames mainly from my inner game and the way I carry myself, and I set same night lay frames by qualifying the girls for certain things (like being non-judgemental, decisive and discrete). If have been in the game for a while now and want to take it to the next level, study the use of frames as this is the key to becoming really good.

This is probably the longest post I've ever written and still it only scratches the surface of my game, but as I mentioned earlier, implement some of the ideas in this post in your own game and see what works for you. To summarize it all, here’s the guide to my game;

Rokker ‘s Model (or How To Game Like a Rock Star);
1) Assume Attraction
2) Tease
3) Convey Identity
4) Qualify on the anchored attraction
5) Tease
6) Convey Identity
7) Put qualification frames
8) Build comfort
9) Seduce

- R

London, Govna!

Just booked my flight to London today! I'll be there over the weekend with Savoy, Braddock, Mr M, Soul and the approach coaches and just kicking it with the crew. I have no obligations to help out at the workshop that Braddock and Mr M are running, but I'll probably make a guest appearance and share my wisdom.

Really looking forward to this weekend! It'll be awesome to see Savoy and Braddock again, haven't seen them since the Super Conference in Feb. I'm also really excited about getting the latest insights of Social Circle Mastery and "Project Rockstar" that my hommies are running, and see if they've chosen any lucky ones yet ;) I mean it's an opportunity of a lifetime and people are CRAZY if they aren't jumping on this like a fat kid on chocolate cake!

Oh, while I'm in London I'll also try to squeeze in a talk about SNLs for the local lair. SNLs is definitely my speciality and I'd love to share my insights on it to local lairs and the community.

I'm pretty busy the upcoming weeks so we'll see how much I can update this blog. I'd love to post every day on here, but something always seems to come in the way... oh now I know what it is, I think it's called "having an awesome life". Life is sweet! I do have some topics I want to post articles on so keep checking the message boards and this blog as I'll post them sooner or later.

Peace
- R